This post comes from Rev. Lynda I. Bigler, of Oregon. Lynda is the current Chair of UCCDM.
Every school, every business, every church, every community has at least one bully in it. Bullying in childhood that remains uncorrected creates grown-up bullies. Young bullies impact the social development and self esteem of their victims and their social communities from the classroom to the sports team. Grown-up bullies use their bullying skills to intimidate others in search of power. Grown-up bullies in church and offices drive out pastors and employees, damaging their adult victims in the same way young bullies damage their young victims. No matter how old a bully is, his or her actions and words shape the lives of both their victims and their communities in negative, unhealthy ways.
Children and adults with disabilities comprise one of bullying’s largest victim pools. Because of this, UCCDM will offer on an ongoing basis some suggestions for helping communities address this issue.
In 2011 a small Iowa congregation held a community event to address bullying. Invited as panelists were representatives from elementary, middle, and high schools from both their guidance and sports departments; security personnel from the high school; a police officer; a mental health professional; the church pastor. A moderator asked each panelist to make a short statement. Afterwards panelists were free to question each other. Finally, the audience had the opportunity to question the panelists. People packed the pews for this 2-3 hour program. Interestingly, some families began attending the church because they saw it as a place of refuge for their children, and a place where others cared about their concerns.
Perhaps this program is something you and your congregation can bring to your community.
